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My husband and I had a wonderful experience working with Jill. We contacted Jill when we were about 33 weeks pregnant with our first child. We attended a birth class and both agreed that having a doula with us would hopefully reduce anxiety and stress and make the overall labor and delivery experience run a little more smoothly.... we were right! After meeting Jill, we both agreed that she had the demeanor and experience we were looking for in a doula. Leading up to our daughter's birth, Jill regularly checked in and gave us suggestions on how to make the pregnancy a little more enjoyable. Baby didn't arrive until almost two weeks post due date, and Jill listened to all of my venting, questions and complaining as I become more and more uncomfortable. In the hospital, Jill was available, ready and supportive. She helped by suggesting new positions, massage, aromatherapy, etc while trying to manage the contraction pain. When our labor didn't go as planned (because it never does), Jill helped us talk through options and figure out what we wanted moving forward. Jill stayed with us throughout the labor and delivery (a long 40 hrs!), gave lots of encouragement as I pushed for 6 hours!, took photos after baby's birth, and came to see us a few weeks after delivery. The post- birth debrief on the baby's labor was suprisingly wonderful for my own processing of such a big event! Overall we loved the experience and will be using Jill whenever we have baby number 2! THANK YOU JILL!! I am so happy that Jill was my doula! First of all I felt comfortable with her right away, even from the very beginning when we were only chatting via text messages before we had an official phone conversation. She is someone I felt instantly at ease with, knowing she was there for me. And I feel she was crucial to me in being able to have the birth I wanted. Coming from my first birth experience where I felt my power was stripped away, she was there to support me in reclaiming my power for my second birth. I was able to have an unmedicated VBAC. I had a lot of anxieties during my pregnancy and while heading into this birth. Jill helped me to work through those anxieties and just knowing she was on my side gave me confidence. I am very thankful for her experience and comforting ways. Love Jill, highly recommend her to be on your team!
As soon as I became pregnant, I knew I wanted a completely natural delivery. I hired Jill based on a phone call and a vibe. That first call made it clear that she had the experience and the right attitude to support me. She has the unique ability to be informative without being clinical and put a person instantly at ease. From being accessible for the questions, funny stories, and inevitable "awkward moments" of pregnancy to being a critical pillar of support during labor and delivery, hiring Jill was one of the best decisions I could have made. My labor was long and intense (26 hours with 4 hours of pushing!), but was still everything I could have hoped for. Jill was on the road to me within 15 minutes of receiving my 4AM call that my water had broken. As soon as she arrived, she was by my side for the entire process. Her techniques were extremely helpful, but I think her greatest asset was her ability to be steady and calm no matter how chaotic everything else felt. After 1, 2, 3 hours of pushing, when I'd say “I have nothing else to give,” I'd look up and see her unchanging face and every time she would look me in the eyes and say, “Yes you do.” There was never a moment at which I felt like she doubted me or my ability to see my delivery through in the way I had envisioned it. After it was all over and our baby boy was in my arms, my husband also admitted his great relief at having Jill there with us. “That was nothing like the movies,” he said. “I am so glad she was here. I would have been so clueless at how to help you.” If I had to sum it up, I'd say that having Jill by my side was like having the comfort of my mom being in the room without the stress of my mom being in the room. I would do the entire process over again in a heartbeat, and hiring Jill would be the first thing on my list.
We loved having Jill as our doula! When we started to look for a doula I had a few concerns. As a physician, I was nervous that they would all be a little too “woo-woo” for us. However, Jill had a very reasonable and balanced approach to birth that jived well with us. I also worried that hiring a stranger to share one of the most intimate moments of our life might be awkward, but Jill was so easy to talk to and she quickly felt like a good friend. It became clear that she was the right person for us! It was so great to have Jill’s support via text in the last few weeks of my pregnancy. She wanted to hear about all of our appointments and she answered all of my silly questions. I wish we had hired her sooner so I could have had that for the entire pregnancy! The day that I went into labor I was in tears because I wasn’t sure if it was the real thing or not (since I had had prodromal labor for a couple of days beforehand—so frustrating!) and I remember feeling such a relief as soon as Jill came to the house. Once she was there I didn’t have to worry or think anymore, I could just focus on getting through each of my contractions. We ended up having exactly the labor and delivery that we had wanted—laboring at home for as long as possible, getting to the hospital at 8 cm, and delivering our baby a few short hours later without any medications or interventions. I know Jill can’t promise such an outcome for all of her clients but I do feel like she was critical in accomplishing it for us. She took some great photos of the birth (and even managed to get some of baby crowning while still respecting my request for “nothing graphic!”). I am so glad that we have them to look back on such a special day! Leah Posted 7/6/2019
Honestly when my wife first asked me if we could hire a doula I wanted to tell her no. Babies are already expensive and all my brain saw was more $$$$ dollar signs stacking up. Still I was not the one who was going to have to be pushing a baby out so I let my wife have what she wanted. And boy am I glad that I did. We first met Jill when she came to our house to meet with us. We discussed our birth plan and my wife got to communicate her wishes with Jill, who understood them. There was talk of birthing styles, midwives, pain relief options, most of it over my head. We met with Jill one more time near our due date but she was always available for questions whenever my wife had them. As I was putting our first child to bed on New Year's Eve eve my wife let me know that the real contractions had started. We were about a week past our due date by this and generally tired and grouchy. Jill responded quickly and showed up at our house around 10:00pm. She quickly had my wife finding positions that were comfortable, coached her through breathing with the contractions, and had me focused on what I could do (most of which was staying out of the way). Honestly I was a mess, and I am sure that without Jill there I would have been panicking. Jill worked with my wife at home for several hours at our house and when she felt it was time we left for the hospital. She stayed with us the whole way, always coaching my wife through the contractions and she was on top of the staff in this hospital. She know what questions to ask, who to call, and most importantly how to communicate effectively with the hospital staff to match my wifes needs. My wife gave birth naturally 8 hours after starting labor with no major issues or hiccups and I believe that Jill was a major part of that. She brought a sense of calm and positivity to labor and made sure that my wife was taken care of, to me that was priceless. I strongly recommend hiring Jill, trust me, it is worth it. Steve 12/18
Jill is a wonderful and compassionate doula! Leading up to labor, Jill took the time to get to know our preferences and wishes, which she fully embraced and implemented. She was accessible day or night to answer any questions, and she checked in regularly as my due date approached. When I went into labor in the middle of the night, Jill responded immediately, and she arrived at our home shortly thereafter. She immediately helped me feel more comfortable through my contractions, and she helped determine the appropriate time to head to the hospital. Jill's support and comfort completely took away all anxiety about childbirth for me. With her support, I had the peaceful, uncomplicated labor that I was hoping for. I highly recommend Jill for anyone looking for a loving, knowledgeable doula! Posted 1/31/2019
My husband and I weren't sure whether or not we wanted a doula. Jill came highly recommended so we decided to first take the childbirth classes with her. After the first session we signed her up as our doula and i'm so glad we did. First, during the child birth classes, Jill was honest about what to expect and the different outcomes that may or may not transpire. I wanted to try natural but was open to other possibilities and she let me know what each of those options were! She helped me create a birth plan- even if I didn't write it down- and the classes helped her know my preferences without pressure to choose specific options. This is our first pregnancy and Jill make us feel as prepared as possible. As is typical, Labor didn't go at all as expected. I did get my natural birth, but the steps taken to it were not at all what I wished. Luckily, through the classes and phone calls (and later in person) Jill helped my husband and I know what options we may have and what fit with what we discussed during class. I also highly appreciated Jill being there as my husband and I arrived at the hospital around 4am- under rather dramatic conditions- and we didn't see the Doctor until 10:30am. Had she not been there, I would have been freaking out. The day nurses also proved to be slightly useless- especially when my body started spontaneous pushing- and it was Jill who pointed out to them what was happening and made sure the Dr. was called to actually catch my baby! When I initially hired Jill I expected her to be there to help with labor positions and coach me through contractions. While she was helpful for that, my labor had limiting factors and I was mostly tied to the bed. That said, her presence and experience ended up being just as vital and necessary to the progression of my labor. Whatever outcome you might have, Jill can help you through it! 08/18
Jill was extremely helpful in the birth of our first baby! I knew i wanted to have a doula who would be an advocate for the type of brith we wanted while delivering. As with all births, ours didn't go accordingly to 'plan,' however, Jill was by our side through the entire 30+ hours of labor and was truly invaluable. She helped me with pain management during the labor and gave me the confidence and tools I needed to finally deliver our baby - nine pushes and he was out! I absolutley recommend Jill if you're looking for a doula.
I recently shared with a few of my girlfriends that giving birth was the best day of my life. They looked at me confused and said that most people dont treasure giving birth but more the after math but I can genuinely say that its my favorite life memory and Jill was paramount in creating it. After watching what I percieved as a coerced birth I decided that I wanted a midwife and subsequently a doula. My hubby didnt see the point and up until wk 37 I wasnt convinced but my gut said DO IT. Jill would text me every day leading up to my due date and post DD as I ended up being 6 days overdue. The morning of, the daily text came in around 730am as I was trying to determine whether my water had broken or if it was just an uptick in the normal pregnancy leakage. Jill suggested she head over to my house and just 'hang out' and we could devise a plan to get labor started. We sat in the kitchen sipping lattes as things progressed. I hadn'notice but Jill was always within feet of me keeping watch on my movements and demeanor. Within 3 hrs the cramping had become more noticeable so Jill suggested a bath or shower and that kicked things into overdrive. As contractions grew, Jill would apply heat and counter pressure to help ease the pain. By 1130am I was no longer able to speak during each contraction; my midwife suggested we head into the hospital to which I responded "but what if I am a baby and I am only at 2 centimeters". Jill calmly responded "but what if you're not". The final 20 minutes were a blurry chaos and Jill was right by my side. I thought I had lost all control and peed my pants (most likely the last of my waters breaking) and Jill was there on her hands and knees wiping up after me as she helped me out the door. Intuitively Jill called the midwife on my behalf and let her know that things were close! We arrived at 1255 pm. Jill remained by my side holding my leg as I pushed my daughter into this world by 1:39 pm. It was Perfect!
Jill is a wonderful doula with a calm caring nature that can help you through any situation you are likely to encounter. She was there for us throughout the entire process, from developing a birth plan, to delivering our son, and even afterward when she visited us at home to check-in. She has a wealth of experience which showed with every interaction we had. When she arrived on the big day, I was so relieved. She helped me through each contraction, got me into positions to move things along, talked me through my options and even cut the umbilical cord! We are so thankful for her help and recommend her with the utmost confidence to any soon-to-be parents. Posted 8/23/2018
It was an absolute pleasure to work with Jill for the birth of our second daughter! I felt like Jill knew just what to do in every situation without me having to say anything! My pregnancy was uneventful until week 34 and then it got exciting. Our baby was diagnosed as IUGR at week 34 and we were told that I would be induced on or before 37 weeks. Jill was by my side the entire time. She stayed in constant contact and up to date with all my doctors visits throughout the pregnancy and then more so after the diagnosis of IUGR. Just to make things more exciting; At 36 weeks and 5 days 1 day before I was going to be induced, I experienced false labor. Jill dropped everything she was doing and drove all the way from Castle Rock to Lafayette at 5PM in rush hour traffic. She even offered to pick my 5 year old up from day camp. So awesome! When in came to the real deal at 37 weeks, my husband and I checked in to the hospital for the induction and Jill met us there. I really wanted to experience a natural birth the second time around but I was being induced and having my water broken manually. I knew how hard and long labor could be from my first daughter/birth. Jill helped me manage the pain, anxiety and fear. Baby Scarlett was born naturally with fentanyl and nitrous oxide within 8 hours. I honestly could not have done it without Jill. There were several times I almost gave up but Jill kept me going strong. I strongly recommend Jill!
Jill was incredibly helpful and supportive throughout the pregnancy and birth. It was SO nice to have someone on hand that I could regularly text with questions. I had lots of prodromal labor for several weeks. Jill patiently helped me wait to see if they continue and was supportive through many false alarms. When the day finally did arrive she helped us think through what some of the options might be that would be presented to us, specifically whether or not I would want my water broken to help encourage the labor along. It was valuable to have talked through that prior to getting in the room with the providers so my husband and I could be on the same page. Jill was so supportive with words of encouragement throughout my contractions. I really felt like a super-star because of her encouragement. We were very appreciative of Jill's presence throughout the labor, and we were able to have a successfully unmedicated delivery! May 2018
Jill is fantastic!! My husband and I cannot say enough great things about her!! We hired Jill after my husband was in a ski accident that left him in crutches. We were on the fence about needing a doula but thought we could certainly use the help given our new circumstances. We hired her when I was already 36 weeks along. After a great phone interview, we hired her right away! Her personality is fun, kind, and she is incredibly knowledgeable! I ended up needing a scheduled induction for high BP and Jill was right by our side from the time we arrived at the hospital through an hour or so after birth. I back labored the entire time and Jill was an incredible asset! She knew what positions to try and what techniques could be done to help me manage the pain. Ultimately, after 18 hours, I opted for an epidural which was the right choice for me once I hit 8cm. Jill was incredibly supportive once I made the decision as she knew I hit my limit. Jill worked amazingly with my Midwife group and all the nurses. She will support and advocate for you but doesn't overstep with the medical staff. She can help you explore and understand all your options while helping you make the best decisions for you and the birth experience you want. My husband and I both feel great about the birth experience we had and we know it wouldn't have been anywhere near as wonderful without Jill! Posted 3/22/2018
We recently hired Jill as our doula for the birth of our second daughter and we were so very happy that we did! From the time we met Jill we found her to be very involved. She communicated with us on a very regular basis and wanted to know how all my prenatal appointments went. I had some complications towards the end of my pregnancy and she was very supportive and helped me cope with some of my feelings and fears. At the time of our birth she arrived to the hospital and I felt such a sense of relief when she walked in the door. She was amazing throughout my labor, talking me through contractions, helping me with positioning, breathing, and being a centered and calm presence for both myself and my husband. She even gave me a foot massage with essential oils, which was a very special treat! I was able to stay calm and work my way through many contractions because of Jill's awesome assistance. She stayed with us for quite some time after our baby girl was born and when it came time for her to leave we both had tears in our eyes. Having her with us during this special time in our lives was exactly what we needed and I couldn't imagine our labor without Jill. She feels like a special kind of friend - almost like a mother or a very supportive sister to me. We consider her a friend to our family and we're so very grateful that we met her! She's a wonderful doula and a wonderful person. Thank you, Jill!! Posted 1/4/2018
Words cannot express how thankful we are to have found Jill. Her calm presence was reassuring and she helped guide me through every contraction and stage of labor. My husband was on the fence initially about hiring a doula, but after our experience he would recommend it to everyone. He was able to focus on our 7 year old son while Jill focused on me. Having a doula was like having a girlfriend that knew exactly what you were going through and comforting you along the way. There were moments when I wanted to throw in the towel, like the moment when the nurse anesthetist came in and told me that I should just get the epidural. Jill knew how important having an unmedicated birth was for me, she helped me find the confidence and strength to push through. In the end we reached our goal of having an unmedicated VBAC. The experience was so amazing and beautiful, and it helped me come to terms with my first son's traumatizing birth. I 100% could not have done this without her. Jill you are amazing, thank you for everything!
I hired Jill around my 30 week date. We live in Colorado and all of our family is back in Georgia. I was worried about my children and needed to know my husband would be able to take care of them if I suddenly went into labor. But I also wanted to be supported during this process. Jill provided that peace of mind for us. As baby #3's due date approached, doctors became more concerned about the growth rate. Baby was small. Jill stayed on top of my appointments, asked for information, and supported me with my real fears I sometimes heistated to share with others. I wanted so badly to have a natural birth, something I was unable to do in my previous labors. I told Jill I thought anything less than a natural birth would be a failure. Our doctor scheduled an induction due to concerns for the baby. Jill was there and such a supportive influence. She provided pain relief, walked with me, listened, distracted me, and allowed my husband and I the time and space to speak to each other about issues that arose in our labor. She even managed to win over my mother, which is no small feat. In the end, I opted for an epidural, which was the right decision given I had another 12 hours of labor in the end. A 29 hour labor was not what I anticipated, but Jill was there for me in a way I cannot express how much I appreciate. She listened, supported my decisions, and reminded me of my goals. She became family during this process. I absolutely love her and cherish our good work together. I will never forget she was there when my husband announce we had a GIRL! Jill saying, "I knew it" and crying tears of joy with us all. Thank you Jill. You are an absolute blessing and treasure. This birth was such a special experience and you are such a large part of that reason. I cannot imagine this process without you. Posted 9/26/2017
Deciding to work with Jill as my doula was the best choice I made regarding my childbirth. I will start out by explaining my background. I am in my early 30's and I had my first baby in May 2017. I always knew I wanted to have my baby in a hospital with a midwife. The decision to have a doula always made sense to me because although I am a healthcare provider and have seen several childbirths, I knew that experiencing childbirth would be a completely different and even scary experience for me. I interviewed a couple of other doulas in addition to Jill and I knew right away that she was the best match for me, not only because of her vast experience, but because of her calm, practical, and down-to-earth nature. I immediately appreciated her openness to whatever intervention I may have ended up deciding to pursue. Jill was so great during the course of my pregnancy as she would send emails to check in on me and see how I was feeling and how my prenatal visits went. She was always very reachable via text message and email. Jill was one of the first people I contacted when my water broke two and a half weeks early. She was very attentive and checked in on me periodically via text messages. Even 12 hours afterwards and still no contractions, she came to my house and worked with me to try to make the contractions begin before we went to the hospital. During my childbirth, Jill was amazingly professional yet caring and reassuring. Without her, I cannot even imagine what the experience would have been like. She was always there by my side and helped guide my sleepy husband through the process. Even with me almost needing a c-section, she did nothing but reassure me and explain things. I absolutely love the pictures she took of us and our son after he was born. It is the small things that Jill did for us that really created the perfect birth experience. I'm so thankful for Jill! May 2017
My experience with Jill as my Doula for my first birthing experience was incredible. Had Jill not been at my side for all those hours, I don't believe 'my birth story' would have been something to look back on with fondness. I think I would simply have told people "Yeah, it sucked." But because we had Jill, I will always feel a huge sense of pride and accomplishment ("Hell yeah I did that!"), and a genuine bond with her that will last the rest of my life. If you are on the fence as to whether you 'need' a doula or not, I believe my labor story would have been something like this WITHOUT Jill: Anxiously realizing I'm actually in labor 12 days early (contrary to what doctor said would happen), wondering if/when we are supposed to head to the hospital. Husband awkwardly trying to console and encourage, me getting b*tchy and irritable b/c he is saying the wrong things at the wrong time. Me repeatedly puking on hospital blankets while husband tries to find hospital barf bowl the size of a petri dish. Husband becoming exhausted ten hours into labor and going to crash on a couch in hospital while I angrily push with nurses I don't know, feeling beyond ticked off he has the nerve to sleep while I'm in flippin' LABOR! Me wondering if I'm insane for wanting to have a baby naturally, while husband looks on in bewilderment while I continue screaming in pain. Me constantly reminding husband I need two rice packs to be reheated for my back and front, then pushing through multiple contractions without him while he tries to find a microwave nearby. Find out baby is sunnyside up and try to get into positions nurses suggest, not knowing what the crap I'm doing. Eventually having baby, exhausted but okay, having a couple blurry photos taken by hubby while he tries to aim camera over doctors and nurses, since we have zero family in town to take photos for us. Compare that to what actually happened WITH Jill: Realizing in amazement that, per Jill's confirmation over the phone, I am going into labor 12 days early. Husband excitedly continues to time contractions until Jill shows up at our home around midnight. Driving to hospital, knowing Jill has done this many times and that we can trust her knowledge and instructions. Me in lots of pain but not feeling overwhelmed because I have both Jill and my husband to give me words of encouragement, fueling my confidence that I can and will handle the entire process without relying on an epidural and/or pain meds. Me telling Jill I need to throw up, her quickly grabbing a large trash can, informing me this is normal and actually helps with labor..! Husband is able to catch a few hours of sleep on a couch, while Jill continues to be amazing with me in a labor tub. Jill and husband taking turns heating my rice packs, so I always have someone at my side. Learn baby is sunnyside up and work with Jill to get baby to flip, feeling beyond exhausted but trusting her...this is what Jill DOES! I know I can do it b/c she is there. Eventually, joyfully, having my baby and basking in the moment with my husband, later receiving a lovely book of photos taken both during and after the actual birth, chronicling a miracle for our little family. ...and that isn't taking into account the wonderful visits she made before and after the delivery, the many emails she answered, and the joy she shared with us throughout the pregnancy overall. So no, you don't NEED a doula at all. But if you want to remember this life-changing event with joy and accomplishment rather than anxiety and frustration, you will want Jill Wilkey at your side. <3 March 2017
Choosing Jill as our birth doula was the best decision my husband and I have ever made. We met Jill when I was about 15 weeks pregnant. We hit it off from the very beginning. She made it very clear that she wanted the very best for us and that our choices and wishes were of the up most importance to her. From then, she strove to construct and guide us in developing a birth plan, teaching us our childbirth class, and always being available anytime we had a question or concern. I developed colestasis at about 31 weeks which changed my due date to deliver at 37 weeks. Jill made sure that her calendar would be cleared and she would be there for us. In fact, when I developed this diagnosis, Jill used all of her resources to educate herself as best she could on the condition, in order to help us and give us more information on what we could expect. I have never seen a person go so far above and beyond. I had to go in for NST's twice a week for about 5 weeks and she would remember pretty much every appointment I had and always wanted to make sure I was ok and that everything was on track. She played such an active role throughout my entire pregnancy. Jill was with us throughout the entire labor (even the night before when i was admitted). She waited with us at the ER and made sure we were comfortable and not too scared. My labor ended up being very rapid in the beginning and Jill was there to provide emotional and physical support with every single contraction. I really don't know what I would have done without her. She guided my husband on how to help me as well and coached him through the whole labor. I pushed for 3 hours and she was by my side the entire time. It's very apparent that Jill loves what she does and that this is her passion. She will always have a special place in my heart! Giving birth to my daughter was the best day of my life and Jill was a big reason as to why it was so incredible and memorable! Such a great experience! Posted 12/2/2016
This lady holds a special place our hearts. She was there for both of our kids' births, and was rock solid support for us in managing two very long, very different labors. From the start she respected our birth plans and did her best to help us achieve them, and make adjustments to the plans as the labors progressed. I had two beautiful birth experiences thanks in part to this incredible woman. When I told my husband I was pregnant with our second, one of the first things he said is "we are hiring Jill again, no matter what!" Jill is amazing beyond words. She is friendly and professional, and her support is there 24/7 during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. She is rock solid in the throes of labor no matter what happens, planned or not. My first birth was a natural birth, and the second an unplanned C-section. During both labors I was never scared because I had such great support from my husband and from Jill. She was there for every contraction, and worked very well alongside the nursing staff and doctors. If you are trying to decide whether or not to use a doula- DO IT! Hiring a doula was hands down the best decision I made in my pregnancies, and we got the very best one in Jill!
My recommendation for Jill comes without even having her present for the birth of my son. I went in to preterm labor at 32 weeks just a few days after Jill had met my husband and I. She was on-call for my husband as we were in a whirlwind of possible outcomes with a million questions. She answered phone calls and texts quickly, allowing us to be informed while our emotions were trying to take over. Luckily I did not give birth at 32 weeks, but just two short weeks later, I was having contractions and heading to the hospital. Again, Jill was available to answer questions, and even though she was going to be in a wedding the next day was willing to come to the hospital and stay with us as long as she could...right up to her hair appointment! It turned out my baby was breech and I needed an emergency c-section, but that didn't stop Jill from joining us in the recovery room to provide support, relief for my husband to take a break, and answer more questions. Jill continued to be available after the birth of my son via text and phone calls. From the very first meeting Jill was warm, informative, and open - just what I was looking for in a doula! As you are looking for a doula, know that Jill is not a one-track minded doula, she will be there for you in whatever way she can and you want her to be, for whatever your birth story ends up being.
From the moment we met Jill, I felt that I could trust her. She has a calm and competent disposition and is super easy to feel at ease with. Jill knew how to help us with our birth in a way where she was present at all the right times and encouraged my husband’s coaching in a perfect balance. She was indispensable in helping me manage my pain naturally and therefore letting me have the best childbirth experience imaginable. When I had issues after the birth, I reached out to her and she helped me get through some rough patches. She’s like talking to a friend but who has all the knowledge needed to give sound advice during this important time in my life when major decisions had to be made. I thank Jill from the bottom of my heart for giving me a childbirth which was supported, informed, and one which I am very happy with the outcome. I am at peace with my childbirth experience and owe it all to Jill!
About a month ago my daughter gave birth to her first child. Any woman’s first experience with child-bearing and birthing is likely to include periods of anxiety, and, in the age of electronic access, this anxiety is likely to be heightened rather than lessened by the overwhelming amount of misleading information that’s available on the web. Fortunately, my daughter and her husband engaged Jill Wilkey as their doula, and from an early period in the pregnancy, Jill was there, in person and on the phone, to answer any questions that arose and to quell any anxieties. Unlike the too-readily available information on the net, Jill’s answers are grounded in her training and in her experience. I had the good fortune to meet Jill in person during the delivery of my granddaughter. She was by my daughter’s side from the onset of labor in the wee hours of the morning, through a long day and into the evening. She offered comfort, wisdom, calming words, physical relief, and constant and calm companionship during those long hours. Her first priority was, of course, the comfort of my laboring daughter and her husband, but she also found time to keep those of us who were awaiting the delivery informed of the progress of the labor and to reassure us that all was going well. I want to emphasize Jill’s gift of listening to her clients and of tailoring her advice to their wishes and needs. She does not push her clients into procedures and regimens that she herself advocates, but gives them full information and lets them make decisions relating to this most intimate and most important event. I recommend her with the greatest enthusiasm to anyone seeking wise, calm, and informed support during a pregnancy and delivery.
I am so glad I chose Jill to help me deliver my first baby. I decided I wanted a doula because I felt overwhelmed by all the questions swirling around in my head, as well as the huge amount of information available. I didn't know how to sort out what was important for me to know, what was myth, and what was just plain extraneous information. I also didn't feel comfortable calling my doctor with every little question that popped into my head. In researching doulas, however, I found many opinionated women who seemed to want to enforce their own agenda on the women who hired them. I was pretty sure I wanted pain medication, but I was hoping for the extra support and knowledge a doula could offer (without the pressure to carry out my birth in one particular way). Jill made me feel comfortable contacting her anytime with questions or worries. She was completely nonjudgmental throughout the process, and supported the decisions my husband and I had made. She took the time to get to know us so that she could help us make the birth experience as close as possible to what we were hoping for. Delivering my daughter was an amazing experience. Jill was there for me every step of the way, even though her family went on vacation right when I went into labor. She explained to me everything that was going on, which allowed me to be aware and unafraid through the process. There was so much love in that delivery room when Lyra arrived, and Jill was a huge part of making that possible. Thank you from all of us, Jill!
We found Jill through Doula Match and couldn't have been happier! We interviewed several doulas by phone and in person. We chose Jill because we felt very comfortable with her - she is extremely knowledgeable and easy to get along with, two qualities that were very important to us. Jill provided us with birthing classes and was an ongoing support during pregnancy when we had questions. She is an excellent resource and if she didn't know the answer was always willing to look into it and get back with you. My birth experience could not have been better and I credit Jill for that! I was able to labor at home and have a completely natural birth, only needing to be in the hospital for a few hours. I had the utmost confidence in Jill throughout the process, which helped me to relax and allow labor to happen on its own. I have wonderful memories of the labor and birth of my daughter and am so grateful for that. Jill was with us every step of the way and even continues to check in now. She genuinely cares about her work and her clients and it shows. I wouldn't hesitate to recommend Jill and definitely want her as our doula if we have more children!
Hiring Jill was one of the single best decisions in my birth plan that I made. Initially I decided to hire a doula to help my husband support me through my first birth. I knew he would be freaked out but would want to help and Jill would be the piece of the puzzle we needed to make the experience easier for him, plus have essentially an advocate on our side through the whole process. Little did I know that Jill would be an asset I could not live without come the big day. The birth of my daughter lasted 38 excruciating hours. My body was reacting as if I was dilated 7 or 8 but I was barley a 2. I was in so much pain that I welcomed the epidural when it was administrated. My daughter moved positions half way through the labor and I went into back labor which the epidural did not help much with. There was so much going on from my daughter moving positions to the pain to the difficulty getting her out that if it was not for Jill I just know we would have ended up in a c-section. Jill helped me through the pain, was constantly by my side with words of encouragement and I just remember when we were getting to the last push and I was totally out of energy, and they were one try away from c-section I looked at Jill and she told me she knew I could do it and I had the strength! With everything left in me and with my husband and Jill by my side we welcomed my little girl into the world! I can not thank Jill enough for her strength, kindness and guidance. I know that when we are ready to have another baby Jill will be the first person we will call. Not only were we impressed by her but even our doctor told us that he was impressed with her and enjoyed working with her. You don’t hear doctors saying that very often so you know she is amazing to work with on all fronts. I suggest everyone hire a doula and not just any doula but the best there is...Jill Wilkey
such a proud daddy and strong mama!
There is a special place in heaven for Jill Wilkey I’m sure. There are not enough words to express the deep gratitude we have for her as we welcomed our son into the world! The decision to choose Jill as our doula was quite possibly the best decision we made in preparing for the birth of our first child. At the first meeting with Jill, we were completely at ease and comfortable with her approach to childbirth. She made it clear that she was meant to be a part of what we wanted the process to be and she never interfered with our view and vision for our birth. She was a constant source of information, encouragement and unbiased emotional support. Her warmth and love for her role as a doula was always evident in all of our interactions. My pregnancy had ups and downs as well as a late complication. Jill went above and beyond in researching our particular dilemma as well as calling on all of her many resources in the community in order to present to us facts when no one else would. Her ever-present positive outlook towards our situation was exactly what we needed during a time of unease regarding the unknown. We could count on Jill to not only encourage us but to reliably be there to answer any questions we had or find the answers to those she didn’t know. This was all before my labor! When I finally did go into labor, Jill was there literally from the very beginning. Our team of three – my husband, Jill and me – worked in complete synchronicity for almost 30 hours. Jill was the glue that kept us together. She tirelessly reminded us of pain management techniques and helped us to make informed decisions throughout the birth. She never appeared intrusive to our spousal relationship but she was also an ever-present, calming presence for both my husband and myself. There is no doubt in my mind that our reflection of our experience would not be as positive or nearly as meaningful if Jill had not been a part of the pregnancy and birth. We would not hesitate to recommend her and feel she is meant to be a doula.
When my husband and I got pregnant we started researching all the things that go into pregnancy, labor and delivery. We quickly came to find out that although Childbirth is a natural thing designed by God, very few births occur "naturally". We learned that much of the intervention that occurs in childbirth can be avoided if you avoid having drugs in labor. We came to the decision together that for the sake of our child, we would attempt a natural (no pain medication) childbirth in hopes of being able to avoid other things like the use of pitocin, forceps, vacuum or even a c-section. As we began to prepare for a natural child birth, we learned about Doulas and how they can help you achieve the birthing experience that you want. We chose Jill as our Doula because she was professional and personal at the same time, and very caring and knowledable. We met with Jill to discuss our hesitations and hopes in terms of her involvement with our birth. She was very open and understanding of all of our questions and concerns. When I actually went into labor, it was the middle of the night and Jill was over within 15 minutes. She was excited for me, but she also helped to calm me and work through my pain. One of our goals was to labor at home as long as we could to avoid the drawn-out hospital labor. It was great to have Jill there to help us know what was going on and when it was time to head to the hospital. My husband was also afforeded a few hours of sleep thanks to Jill's being there. Once at the hospital, Jill did not miss a beat and was great about helping with pain managment but not taking the role my husband wanted to fill in the process. Jill proved to be an intregal part of my birthing support team and I don't think we could have had the wonderful experience that we did without her.
When I first heard about Jill and what her role as a Doula was, I was hesitant- thinking that I would be just fine delivering a baby on my own. I decided to talk with Jill and realized that her role was much more than just being there when it was time for the baby to be born.She was there for me from the time my water broke (at 2am) to the actual delivery of my baby (8:45 pm) and after to help with nursing him. Jill is very knowledgable and is an expert at what she does! I am so thankful to have had her help during my labor and delivery. She was supportive in my decision to labor without and epidural as long as I could and then have one when I decided that I wanted to. I know that had she not been with me, I would have chosen to get an epidural much sooner than I did which would have slowed the whole labor by confining me in bed. She was totally there with me for every contraction and was able to help me cope with the pain through various comfort measures that I wouldn't have thought of! Jill is such a blessing to my husband and I and helped make my birthing experience everything that I wanted it to be. Thank you Jill!!!
This was our 4th baby and truly the best experience because I was able to rely on her experience, guidance, and pain management skills that I had not had in the past.The journey through this birth experience was different because I had such an amazing support system with Jill.She knew exactly what to say and do through my pregnancy and the birth process.You cannot imagine until you experience it. Another thing I love about Jill is that she does not judge you.She is an encourager, not a discourager to make your birth experience the best it can be.I wanted so badly to go natural the entire experience.Unfortunately, due to circumstances beyond either of our control, I had to receive pain medication in the final phases of pushing.She knew all the pressure points, massage, the right positions, and appropriate measures to take at all times.She was absolutely positively my ROCK. I recommend Jill Wilky as your labor coach/doula.She will make a huge difference in your labor experience from start to finish.With the right support system, you can do anything you set your mind to.Best wishes to you and your family.
We met Jill on a Sunday evening at our home- she was prepared, professional, and seemed like a good candidate to help us with our labor and delivery process…then, we had an incident involving one of our dogs, and our choice became obvious- in what was a very trying situation, in the home of almost complete strangers, Jill stepped to the plate, and helped us out…her actions that evening would be a precursor of things to come. Jill did everything we could have asked as my pregnancy progressed- she was an invaluable source of information and perspective, and was always cheerful and an available, supportive friend. As we got closer to the delivery date, things got more complicated- about a week before my due date, it looked like the baby would be better off outside, and we scheduled an induction- Jill was at my side throughout what ultimately was a failed attempt to induce labor, and she was a calming influence in what was a stressful, long, exhausting and disappointing experience. We went back to the drawing board, and decided to put off delivery and hope that things came naturally. As it turned out, we had no such luck, but we did have Jill, who was there with answers to our questions, and ready to help whenever our little bundle of joy decided to arrive. We ended up back at the hospital roughly two weeks after my due date, with another induction- Jill was a rock, and helped guide us through…needless to say, nothing came easily, and we ended up with a very trying labor process, ending in the need to move suddenly from a vaginal delivery to an emergency C section. I had been very focused on doing things as naturally as possible, so this was a last alternative- Jill understood, was my advocate throughout, and when the time came and we had to switch approaches for the safety of our baby, Jill made it all ok. She was with my husband and me in the operating room during the C Section, and stayed with me through recovery when my husband had to leave with the baby. She helped make sure the experience was as close as it could have been to a natural childbirth, and to stay focused on what we wanted our birth to be, even given all of the changes. To say it clearly, Jill went above and beyond in every situation, and was truly a Godsend. I cannot imagine what our birth would have been like without Jill's expertise, knowledge, warmth, love, caring, and support. I feel very fortunate to have someone as special as Jill in my family's life.
My biggest concern was that if we had a Doula it would take away from Stephanie and I experiencing the labor together. Jill put this concern to rest right away and described herself as a coach for me more than for Stephanie, helping me to support Stephanie in the ways she needed. She ended up doing just that, and it was perfect. No matter how much you prepare, there is so much to remember and know and it is nice to have someone who can remind you of different relaxation techniques and positions to deal with pain. I also realized quite quickly that it takes more than one person to aid in a natural childbirth. It was great to have Jill as a coach throughout the birthing process. She was very supportive and encouraging. I was very glad she was there.
With the birth of our first child having a doula was so important for the whole labor and delivery. When we found out we were expecting number two we had just moved to Colorado and our immediate thought was finding a doula. When we first met Jill, her knowledge and love for ‘birth’ was beyond evident; we felt comfortable and safe ...working with her. It takes a very special person to be truly helpful and supportive during labor and Jill was just that. Jill was able to keep me calm, relaxed, and even more she helped my husband and I work as a team through each contraction. She was so helpful and hands-on (bringing warm compresses to place on my back and a birthing ball to sit on) during the whole experience and I cannot express how much she helped me go through labor. My plan was to labor at home as long as possible before going to the hospital, when we arrived at the hospital I was 100% dilated and ready to push. Jill was KEY to welcoming our little boy into our arms!! …Jill, with your help we were able to have the birth we dreamed of. Thank you for sharing your knowledge throughout my pregnancy and being our rock during labor. Thank you!!
Having Jill as our doula was the best decision that we made for the delivery of our daughter. I really wanted to have a natural birth and from the beginning Jill was supportive of that but it was clear that she would help me to have whatever birth experience I wanted. She really took the time to find out what we wanted and did everything she could to help us get it. My husband was very hesitant to hire a doula but from the first meeting he felt comfortable with Jill and then right after our daughter was born he said he wanted to add her to our will because she saved my life. My life was never in danger but I did end up needing more interventions then I had hoped for. Jill was right there with information about my choices and needs. This allowed me and my husband to make informed decisions and fell good about what was going on throughout the labor. She never interfered in any interaction between my husband and I but really pulled us together as a team to bring our daughter into the world. I labored for 25 hours and Jill was right there by my side the whole time pushing on my back, offering me new positions and other comfort measures that made it much more bearable. She also ran interference with my family, keeping them informed about how the labor was going but not letting them in the room until we were ready for them. She took great pictures that we would not have gotten any other way and will cherish forever. We will always be grateful to Jill for the loving support she gave us and all she did to help make the birth of our daughter an amazing experience
Having Jill as our Doula made the whole birthing process much less stress full and more enjoyable than it would have been, without her. Like most guys, I wanted to help my wife and do whatever I could to “fix” the situation, but one of my biggest fear was not knowing what to do or how to help. Jill provided support not only for my wife but for me as well. Providing ideas and suggestions on different positions to help with the contractions, getting water, ice chips and food allowing me to stay with my wife, and helping me keep the family that was in the waiting room up to date were just some of the things that Jill did to help. Her professionalism and knowledge of, well lets face it guys, stuff we don’t know that much about really was able to put me at ease, which allowed me to support my wife more. Afterwards when we were in our postpartum room, after 25 hours of labor with our new little girl I joked that I am going to add her to our Will, out of gratitude for Jill’s support.
Choosing Jill as part of my support team was a great decision. She was like my personal cheerleader, always on call with encouragement and helpful information. I am a Type I Diabetic, so it was important to me to have people knowledgeable about my special circumstances helping me. Jill took the time and made extra efforts to learn about pregnancy and diabetes. She takes her job very seriously, and she responds to texts, calls, and emails very promptly and answers all questions thoroughly. Her easygoing nature was a great bonus when I was feeling discouraged, and she has a knack for always seeing the bright side of things. She is a great conversationalist, which was so helpful during the endless hours of labor. When I ran into complications during labor, she made sure I knew what was going on and made informed decisions. She was great at keeping me on track with my goals, even when it was tough, but she also rolled with the changes when I had to adjust my birth plan. She made me feel like every choice I made was just the right one, and she kept me from feeling scared, confused, or uncertain. In the end, with Jill's help, every moment of my birth story was exactly as it should be. A doula is the one person who is there solely for the mom to be, and Jill takes this responsibility very seriously. If you are looking for someone encouraging and positive, with a lot of knowledge about pregnancy and childbirth, Jill is perfect. She knows how to follow the lead of the mother, knowing when to soothe and when to be more upbeat. My husband was grateful for her help, and all the medical staff thought she was incredible. She can ease any worry, and she makes the birth experience the warm happy memory it should be.